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Won’t somebody think of the children?!?

A white man with curly hair with a shocked expression.
Photo by Alexander Krivitskiy on Unsplash

I’ve written about this before. Being out and open about who I am and the work I do invites keyboard warriors on certain social media posts.

There are no names that I (and everyone in the LGBTQIA+ community) haven’t been called. Paedophile, groomer, unnatural, confused… Just today, I’ve been called a child abuser. This wasn’t even on one of my own posts, but one that I featured in. It used to really upset me – and yes, each one smarts a little bit. However, nowadays, it just spurs me on to be even more open, be even more out and be even more myself. Because that’s all I can do. In the wise words of RuPaul;

Unless they pay your bills, pay them bitches no mind.


And these people don’t pay my bills, so I don’t pay much attention to their keyboard wars.

What does concern me is the way that some cis heterosexual people are so scared of people who aren’t like them that they need to hide behind a faceless profile on a social media website. I mean, are they OK? No, seriously, are they doing OK? Maybe they need a hot water bottle, a cup of tea and a biscuit, just to calm themselves. I’d also suggest that they find a hobby, other than trolling people not like them on the internet. I hear trainspotting is good.

In all seriousness, people like that must not have many things going on and I pity them. Much like the hyped gender-criticals.

This kind of experience is exactly why we need to keep pushing for representation of LGBTQIA+ identities in ELT materials – and no matter the amount of abuse I receive, I’m not going to stop.

I’m looking forward to attending IATEFL in Brighton next month. I’ve highlighted a couple of talks I want to attend – it’s a shame I’m not going to the PCEs, otherwise Tyson Seburn would have been top of the list, but alas, I’m not. But if you’re going to the PCEs, I strongly suggest Tyson’s talk.
Ones during the week are:

  • Representation is good representation? by Albert Biel on Tuesday at 14.05. Frustratingly, Lukasz Pakula is also on at the same time.
  • Inclusion: where are we now? by Varinder Unlu on Tuesday at 1635.
  • People like us panel on Wednesday from 1020.
  • Whiteness and wokeness by Ann Roemer on Wednesday at 1415.
  • Too triggering? by Lottie Galpin on Thursday at 1435.
  • and of course mine on Wednesday at 1205.

I’ll be there with my new book, Existence: Eight LGBTQIA+ inclusive ELT resources.

A physical copy of the ELT resource book Existence, with bookmarks saying I am not a taboo.

You can buy it from this website (go to the shop, UK only – but I seem to be having trouble accepting debit/credit cards, but there are other ways to pay) or you can go to Amazon – just here.

And yes, I’ll have bookmarks at IATEFL too. And if you can successfully order from my website!

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