I have a love/hate thing going on with social media.
Yes, I see the point of social media, especially when you’re self-employed – but at the moment, I’m social-media-averse. I may not be in the future, and that’s OK.
Social media is exhausting.
There, I’ve said it. And while I’ve been growing better reactions to what I see on SM, or comments made to me, it’s still exhausting.
So, what kind of reactions have I been seeing? (and when I say ‘me’, I mean people in general)
– posts/comments for not commenting on particular situations
– posts/comments for commenting on particular situations
– posts/comments for being who you are
– posts/comments for being who you’re not
– posts/comments for posting too much
– posts/comments for not posting enough
– posts/comments saying that what I’ve posted is unprofessional
– posts/comments telling me I should post more
– posts/comments telling me what kind of things I should post
– posts/comments telling me what kind of things I shouldn’t post
– posts/comments telling me when I should post
– posts/comments telling me when I shouldn’t post
– posts/comments telling me where to post
– posts/comments telling me where not to post
And on the eve of my 45th birthday, I’ve decided that enough is enough.
All of it is pressure.
Who has time for pressure? Even self-imposed pressure? I used to use a social media scheduler, but then that was too much pressure to put on myself.
I will not feel guilty or ashamed for not posting or posting what I want to, when I want to – or when I have the mental capacity to do so.
I will not be explaining any absence from social media or apologising for not being online or visible every day.
It’s not for me.
It may be OK for you – grand, that’s super. Thumbs up.
However you want to use social media should be everyone’s individual choice. But if you’re feeling overwhelmed with it, or you wake up and one of your first thoughts is ‘what do I need to post on social media today?’, then perhaps you need to take a look at what you’re actually getting out of social media. I recently deleted my FB page (yet I still have a personal profile and a professional one), deleted my personal instagram and personal threads – because it’s all become too much.
I’d much prefer to get on with my work and post when I want to; or spend more time reading fiction books rather than doom-scrolling through any social media.